Latest Updates



Hi everybody! School is back in session for the fall, so at times it may be hard for me to update, but I am doing my best! Feel free to send any questions, comments, or suggestions to annaleigh@aswaterspassingby.org

New:

Arrrgh...it appears I have work to do before the big move! It will get done though. I expect to finish the support group section first, and then I will begin the painstaking work of going through all the HTML files to be sure there are no empty HTML files on my hard drive for this site when I move. Guh. Can you tell I'm looking forward to it? LOL, you all have a great day!

0 Added Patricia Weaver Francisco to Notable Survivors and updated Pamela Anderson's entry there.
0 Added a newly completed poem to Poetry.

10/15/2005:

Again, I apologize for the lack of updates. I just went through midterms, an anniversary, and some other complicated stuff that has pulled me away from this site. I'm in one of those moods where I feel like pulling an all nighter and doing some stuff around here, so keep a watchful eye. As much as I hate to do it, I will probably be changing site hosts from Yahoo (due to merger with Microsoft) to Bravenet. The domain will be changing (hopefully to aswaterspassingby.org ) I expect to secure the domain and make the changes 2 weeks from now. If you currently link to me and I know about it, I will be emailing you when I make the change. And unlike the last move I made, the site will be at this host and the new one at the same time for about 3 weeks so that everyone has a chance to make the changes. *Also* I am excited to announce that when I have a job and have extra income, I will be founding a website devoted entirely to providing webspace and assistance to survivor and activists looking to speak out on the web. Keep an eye out!

0 Added banner link to Silence Undone, an awesome site.

10/4/2005:

Hi! Hi apologize for the lack of updates. I am still working on the support group section of the site, it's coming along nicely; it's just that I had to put it down for a couple of days. :) I also have purchased a couple more books for the site's library. I will let you know when the support group section is up and going!

9/27/2005:

Good morning! The update fairy has had a bit of time here and there, so I am still updating regularly, little bits and pieces of information. In addition to the teeny things I am adding right now, such as links, I am currently working on a section just for everybody on online support groups. I am compiling many links to supportive message boards, mailists and chat. I am also compiling a dictionary of terms and acronyms used in these groups you may not be familiar with, and also some suggestions on how to find one that will work for you (I used to help moderate a mailist group, so I know a bit). Have a great day, and check back!

0 Added Silent-Screams Store to fundraiser list.
0 Added After Silence banner to fundraiser page.

9/25/2005:

0 Added Laveraneus Coles to Notable Survivors, and also copied/pasted a very recent news article on his decision to tell the world he was sexually abused.
0 Added a quote to The Feminine Scream
0 Added Gavin DeBecker to famous survivor list..
0 Added a little bit more of my thoughts to the suicide section.
0 Added several links to Domestic Violence section
0 Added banner links to Battered Men's Helpline, and Survivor's Empowerment Zone

9/22/2005:

Hi everybody! I was having a rough 2 or 3 days myself, and I have been busy with school so I haven't been able to update, but I am hoping to get a little bit done here and there over the next few days. I made a list tonight of various stuff I need to do around here so I wouldn't forget. Hope you are all well!

0 Updated all links to The Day I Died, added a link to Through The Fire, and added a banner link to Pixie's Rape Crisis Pathfinder!

9/18/2005:

Wow, we've passed 2000 hits with this counter! That's actually about 4000 total hits since I've been keeping counters on the main page. May we have 4000 more! Anyway, I'm going to be doing a few small updates today. Also, here's a heads up: Sometime, hopefully soon, I will be changing the host of the the blog/news article archive to a new host, LiveJournal. I'm really tired and offended that the Google ads GreatestJournal places on abuse related blogs usually include ads for defense attorneys. As survivors you deserve more than to be callously triggered that way. So as much I wasn't sure I wanted to do it, I will be setting up an account with LJ, and if it becomes appropriate, I will consider making it a paid account.

0 Added links to Innermotion, Arte Sana, and Mujer Arte in Sexual Abuse @ Links
0 Fixed the alignment on the Pregnant By Rape banner in the Banner Links section; it just looked messy!
0 Added the lyrics to Dyers Eve by Metallica, and Breaking the Habit by Linkin Park to the music section.

9/17/2005:

I'm baaack! I have a brand new computer, and have finished downloading this site to my harddrive so I can begin updating again. Can you believe it, over 250 html and graphic files make up this site! That's a lot. Anyway, keep your usual watch for updates. It's good to be back!

0 Fixed broken link on Type of Abuse Described @ Abuse Lyrics

9/14/2005:

Hi everybody! Unfortunately I'm going to be on hiatus until about the first of the month. My computer died nearly a week ago, and I will not be able to buy my brand spanking new one until October 1st. It may also take me a little while until I get this entire site downloaded to my new harddrive. Till then, please feel free to explore the resources, or to email me (altho I may take a little while to respond...right now I only can get on the computer when I'm going to my World Religion class, or I'm at the library. I will get to you, though!) Please take care everybody, and see you all soon!

9/5/2005:

I will be working on the site quite a bit today. Stay tuned; there may be new sections! 0 Added 4 new links to Secondary Survivor links.
0 Added 4 new links to Religious Related Abuse.
0 Removed one link, and added several to Religious Related Resources.
0 Removed, fixed, and added a few links in Anti-Child Porn/Prostitution section.
0 Added survivor profile of Anne Sexton!

9/3/05:

It's Labor Day weekend, and I have absolutely no plans, so updates it is!

0 Added 3 new songs
0 Added text and banner links to Holli's Triumph Over Tragedy
0 Added links to hotline webpages in Kern County, CA resources.
0 Added a new scripture to Christian section
0 Removed broken link from Christian section, added new one.
0 Removed broken links from Child Abuse @ Links, and a new one.
0 Removed broken links from Domestic Violence @ Links, and added a handful of new ones.

9/2/2005:

Yesterday I went to one of my passions, the library's occasional "buck-a-bag" sale. :) Among the books I came away with, I got Fat, Stupid, Ugly, which is one woman's account of abuse. It should help with my research.

0 Added 3 new links to the PTSD section @ Aftermath.
0 Removed broken link from DID @ Aftermath, and added 4 links to DID @ Aftermath. 0 Added Displaced Parts to banner link section.
0 Added several links to Eating Disorders @ Aftermath.
0 Added a few links to Drug & Alcohol Addiction @ Aftermath
0 New section on Self-Injury in Aftermath!

8/30/2005:

I've had a busy but good day. Unfortunately that leaves little time for updates!

0 Added link to secondary survivor site Flower Petals (highly recommended!)

8/29/2005:

Gah...still buried alive in homework!

0 Added a little section on Kaylee Schnurr. Link to the Kaylee's law petition is now on the main page.

8/27/2005:

0 Added link to Forever Healing, a sexual assault survivor & secondary survivor site.

8/25/2005:

Although the site is not my focus today (rather it's the loads of homework), let's see what I can get done!

0 Added link to I Am A Survivor, a new Christian message board for survivors of the sex industry.
0 Added link to Women Against Domestic Violence Chatroom!

8/25/2005 (something nice to share!):

Many of you know that out of the Notable Survivors listed on this site , I am most of all a fan of Dave Mustaine (click to read his story) the lead singer of Megadeth. Recently Dave apologized & asked for forgiveness for some of the mean things he's said on stage or interviews when he was younger, and often drunk. I sent him an email (I do this every 3 weeks or so, hehe) and gently reminded him of the mean things he's said about heavier women in interviews and whatnot, and how it made me feel back when I was a teenager reading his interviews. I told him he was forgiven, and I was proud of his personal growth. Here was his reply to me (short because he's a busy man!)

"Thanks and don't worry about who you are. You are who you are. :-)

DSM"

It's so good to see him grow and mature and come into his own...shedding some of that anger in him that were ignited by his being abused and other hardships. He really is a wonderful person.

8/24/2005:

*sigh* Well, it has been a very up and down couple of weeks or so for me. There have been some personal revelations regarding my CSA; and college has started up again for me. So as you can see I have been incredibly busy. I do plan to make as many updates I can in between life and academia, and hopefully tomorrow I should be ready to share something really nice with you guys, but first I have to get through my last day this week of classes on campus...then it's officially the weekenddddd. Yeah.

0 Added Alice Marie's "I Was Seven" to Song Lyrics.
0 Added lyrics to "Four Blues Walls" by The Dukhs.
0 MAJOR update to my story (it's good to finally get it out)
0 Fixed the alphabetizing on song index.

8/15/2005:

Well kiddies, the Update Fairy got completely sidetracked by MySpace last night and this morning. She spent all night editing her profile. *rolleyes* Oh well, it's given me some good ideas, like starting a MySpace account for this site. (I'll elaborate when I've had some sleep). And my darling Mimi knocked down a signficant portion of my music collection down to the floor. Will I get something done around here today? I hope so, but I dunno. I can tell this is gonna be a helluva day.

0 Added new section on survivor stories -- no stories submitted yet, but if you like to, gimmie a holler!
0 Deleted broken link from Nightmares/Night Terrors @ Aftermath section.
0 Added the Journey to Me store to the fundraisers section!

8/5/2005:

The Update Fairy hopes to keep busy today! :D I also recieved the book on art therapy. It looks really really good.

0 Updated Come In From the Rain.

8/4/2005:

I've been busy, but starting tomorrow I will attend to more updates. The books I purchased for the library should start coming soon too! :D

0 Added two songs (Rain On Me by Ashanti, and The Story of Beauty by Destiny's Child) which were suggested by Destinys21. :)

7/31/2005:

I have the next several weeks free so I should be trying to achieve much! I am also purchasing several new books to add to my library that will provide great information for you all. Mostly they deal with sexual abuse, but also deal with other topics, like PTSD, body image, and my personal favorite, art therapy.

0 Replaced the broken counter.
0 Added a JusticeForFew.org banner to main page.

7/15/2005:

My algebra class is ending soon so I will be busy for a bit. After that I have a project due but updates will still be forthcoming!

0 Added links to Out of Darkness (banner link), Darkdancer's Graphic Art and Poetry, and Help the Child Brides.
0 Joined a new webring.

7/1/2005:

I just found out that I will not be able to make it to a summer concert I planned on attending out of town, so I will have plenty of time for more updates this month. :(

0 I added a link to the Alliance Against Family Violence and Sexual Assault's webpage to the Kern County helplines section.
0 Added a link to Kern County Child Protective Services website in Kern helplines.
0 Added a link to Child Help USA in Kern helplines.

6/30/2005:

Wally's killer has been caught! I am very relieved right now.

0 Added lyrics to Korn's "Hey Daddy" per Chelsea's suggestion. Thanks Chelsea! :D

6/25/2005:

0 Added several new links to my nightmares and night terrors section.

6/23/2005:

I have been slow to update these past couple days because I recently found out that someone I knew was murdered this past weekend. It has been hard to deal with it, as you can imagine. Such a tragic loss of a precious life. :(

0 Added link to Sparrow's victim advocacy site to the main page. It's that important a site.

6/20/2005:

0 Added a link to Out of Darkness, in the sexual abuse/rape links section.
0 Added several new articles to the blog/article archive.
0 Added several new notable survivors!
0 Added links to survivor sites Still Rising, and The Day I Died.
0 Added several RAINN fundraisers to fundraisers list.
0 Joined a couple more webrings.
0 I also tested to see where this site ranks with google, and luckily a search on "Annaleigh's Abuse Awareness Site" turns up the url on the first page so everyone should be able to find it again. YAY!

Week of 6/16/2005:

0 Added VDay Store to list of abuse awareness fundraisers.
0 Added a statistics section!
0 Added 2 songs by Martina McBride
0 Joined a few webrings
0 Put my awards back up on the site.
0 Got another A on second exam, and a B on the third! ;)

6/12/2005:

0 New letter to my mother under letters and essays.
0 Lots of new articles added to the blog!
0 Little update to the about me section. :)

We are finally in Phase 3 of this massive update! :D Now I will be adding totally new content I have not added before.

0 Posted signs of a verbally abusive relationship.
0 Posted signs a teenage girl may be in an abusive relationship.
0 New section of links to anti-abuse fundraisers!
0 New welcome section!
0 Section on suicide added!
0 The Feminine Scream, a section on the aftermath issue of fearing men, added.

6/10/2005:

0 Added a link to emergence, a wonderful sexual abuse survivor site that I forgot to to add last night.
0 Fixed most of my banner links. Some of the domains had been let go, and porn sites took them over. *big sigh* I am sorry if any of you clicked those before I got to them.
0 Deletions, updates, and additions to Religious Related Abuse section of the links.
0 Added a pretty pretty pretty banner donation from Lou of Aphrodite Wounded! :D
0 Links section for Secondary Survivors of rape/sa/csa added!
0 Added two new poems!
0 Added a survivor profile of Maya Angelou!
0 Added a survivor profile of Billie Holliday

6/9/2005:

0 Addition of a section on Drug & Alcohol Addition in Aftermath.
0 Addition of song lyrics by Fiona Apple, Tori Amos, Foo Fighters, Tupac Shakur, and Shania Twain (what a mixture!)
0 New (and improved) salvation prayer in the Christian section!
0 New links added to Christian Links section.
0 Scriptures section added to Christian section.
0 Thoughts added to Christian section on wounded spirituality.
0 Child Abuse Links: Some deleted, some updated, and many new added.
0 Domestic Violence Links: I think I added about 5 billion new links today, hehe.
0 Sexual Abuse/Rape Links: some deleted, some updated, a few new ones added.

6/8/2005:

Aftermath section:
0 New links in PTSD section
0 New links in Dissociative Identity Disorder section
0 New and updated links in Pregnancy By Rape section
0 Addition of a section on Eating Disorders

6/7/2005:

As you can see, the new look of this site is complete! *snoopy dance* Because there is a survivor site out there called Crushed Roses, I have chosen to change the name of the site to As Waters Passing By instead. Now that phase one (changing the site's name and look) of the changes is complete, I will start phase two, which will be to post whatever updates there are to the current sections. I hope you're enjoying the new look. I think it's pretty! ;)

Also in the Aftermath section:
0 New links in the Nightmares and Night Terrors section
0 New links in the Depression/Bipolar section

6/1/2005:

I have 12 days until my Algebra course starts. I'm going to see how much I can get done around here till then. It's going to be a quite a bit of a facelift. The site's new name is Crushed Petals, for one thing. Keep an eye out!

5/27/2005:

New personal update added to "My Story"

UPDATES FORTHCOMING: Hi everybody! I have just finished the Spring semester of college, and though I am planning to take a Summer school class, I am planning on doing some work around this place! I need to take a good look at what needs to be fixed, and then update it. Keep an eye out!

2/1/2005:

MOVING SOON: I am planning on obtaining a new domain sometime today. I'm not sure just yet what the domain name will be, but as soon as I do know, you all will be told! Rest assured I will not cancel this current domain until the move has been completed and you have been informed about it.

FUNDRAISING BOUTIQUE IDEA: I am currently hatching a plot to start up a Cafepress boutique to raise funds for the Jamison Center in Bakersfield, California. Specifically, we would be selling products such as t-shirts, buttons, teddy bears, etc. created, managed and shipped by Cafepress, but designed by us. Ideas for designs would come from local & outside survivor artists, poets, and writers. While the Jamison Center doesn't accept cash donations, they do accept things such as children's clothing, toys, and games, that can be purchased and mailed to Bakersfield with the funds raised through the boutique. I will be speaking to a few survivor artists, and should know in about 3 weeks time whether this is what we want to do.

August 29, 2004:

Marilyn Monroe and Joyce Meyer added to notable survivors.
New link added to Banner Links, Shesinrecovery.com!
Info on Dissociative Identity Disorder added to Aftermath section.

July 1, 2004:

Gabrielle Union added to notable survivors.
Blog entries added!

June 11, 2004

New visitor comment added to mailbag!

June 10, 2004:

0 New link added to Sexual Abuse/Rape Survivor Sites

June 3, 2004:

0 Fran Drescher added to notable survivor list.
0 Blog updated with new news stories.

April 2004

0 Aftermath section continuing to be built

0 Started official site mailbag section

0 Thanks list added to "about me" section

0 Blog updated with new articles

0 Work on "Aftermath" section to begin.

0 Blog articles catagorized

0 Signs of child sexual abuse section added

0 Awards section tidied up

0 New section: Essays and Letters In Healing.

0 Abuse in the news blog set up.

0 Another banner added.

0 Carlos Santana survivor profile added!

0 New links section, "Anti-Child Pornography & Prostitution"

0 More banners added.

0 New section added, "Christian Resources"

0 More links added

0 Tori Amos survivor profile created!

0 Survivor profile of Dave Mustaine edited

0 New notable survivors added.

0 Major linkage added.

0 A handful of new song lyrics added, and one song ("Raped and Freezing") removed because it just wasn't appropriate.

0 my story has been revised to reflect a new found ability to say what happened to me, and to update my regulars about where my life has gone since the last update.


January 2003

0 Faith Hill lyric added

0 new Delano, CA helpline added

0 Many links added

0 New link catagory, "Religious Related Resources"

0 Halle Berry added to Notable Survivors list

0 Abuse survivor profile for Drew Barrymore added

0 4 new webrings joined


11/26/2002 Updates

0 Christina Aguilera and Ozzy Osbourne lyrics added.

0 Ozzy Osbourne added to Notable Survivors

0 Gift from Forever Tears added to honors


10/25/2002 Updates

O New personal story update added, previous update edited

o Vanessa Carlton lyrics (Paradise) added

o Links of all kinds added

o First notable survivor profile posted

o Webrings joined, including PWOTW Against Domestic Violence ring

o Broken counter replaced

More updates always planned, so stay tuned to this site for more.